STEP #4
I can make a new plan to take care of my own feelings and needs.
First I can choose to seek support from:
Select One: aunt brother child care provider Child Protective Services clergy coach community leader counselor dance instructor doctor Elder family family mother teacher fireman friend God Father grandfather grandmother Health Department imam instructor leader librarian Local Spiritual Assembly medical doctor medicine man medicine woman mentor minister mother music teacher neighbor nephew niece nurse parson pastor peace maker peace officer Police Department police officer priest rabbi school counselor sister Sunday school teacher teacher

Then I can choose to make a new plan based on my feelings and needs.
Select One: I can admit my mistakes. I can forgive my self. I can ask what will happen. I can notiice what I am good at. I can like myself. I can ask for help. I can ask for support. I can be kind to myself. I can make safe choices. I can believe in my dream. I can believe in myself. I can believe in you. I can believe in your dream. I can call a doctor. I can call a friend. I can call a hotline. I can call my spiritual support. I can call the help line. I can call the police. I can change my mood. I can choose not to give up. I can choose not to run away. I can choose to talk to a friend. I can choose to talk to my father. I can choose to talk to a family member. I can choose to talk to my mother. I can be funny. I can cry. I can decide to change. I can ask to have a doctor I feel safe with. I can be safe to be with. I can make a plan. I can choose to stop and get help. I can choose a project and get busy on it. I can do deep breathing. I can eat good food. I can exercise. I can follow my safety plan. I can forgive myself. I can forgive others. I can get help. I can watch a movie. I can go to a synagogue. I can go to church. I can go to the circus. I can hesitate and then take a time out. I can join a group. I can laugh. I can learn to wait. I can leave the room. I can be who I am. I can listen to someone without agreeing with them. I can live my dream. I can say what I feel without hurting anyone. I can make amends. I can be quiet. I can practice my favorite skill. I can praise myself. I can praise myself when I do a little better. I can pray. I can read a book. I can receive a praise. I can ask for attention. I can learn. I can receive love. I can receive respect. I can refuse abuse. I can refuse to abuse myself. I can refuse to be abused by others. I can remember that I deserve support. I can take a time out before I make a promise. I can take a time out before I make a decision. I can take a time out before talk. I can say "no" when I feel "no." I can accept "no." for an answer. I can choose not to be aggressive. I can say what I feel... not act out what I feel. I can set my boundaries. I can sleep. I can speak for myself. I can speak my truth. I can spend more time with music. I can stop saying "Yes" when I mean "No". I can take a bath. I can take a rest. I can take a walk. I can take action. I can take my medications as directed. I can take responsibility for what I say and do. I can talk to a friend. I can talk to a minister. I can talk to a mullah. I can talk to a priest. I can talk to a rabbi. I can talk to an Elder. I can talk to my brother. I can talk to my sister. I can talk to my doctor about my medications. I can talk to my doctor about how I feel. I can talk to my Father. I can talk to my grandfather. I can talk to my grandmother. I can talk to my Mother. I can treat myself well. I can value myself. I can wait. I can accept my true beauty. I can praise others. I don't want to tattle I just want some help. I will be thankful. I will stand up for what is right and stay safe.

STEP #5
I can choose to remember to praise myself for doing a good job of self care.
I can choose to be thankful that I remembered what to do.
Select One: Being less scared feels good. Having less attitude feels good. Being in charge of only me feels good. I am in charge of my own feelings and needs. I am good at this. I am not so impulsive. I like it. I can find my way on my own. I can get good at this. I don't feel in control but I think this is better. I don't think my new plans will work but I will keep trying! I don't trust thist. I don't trust this but it feels different. I feel better when I am nice to myself. I feel good about myself. I feel like I can do this now. I have always done something like this. I have chosen not to give up. I didn't give up. Now I have a better Plan. I like to have rules to follow. I still feel angry but I know I don't want to stay angry. I still feel hurt but I know I don't want to hurt others. I'm not sure I feel safe so I will ask for help. It feels weird but it feels good. It is nice not to feel like angry. I like myself better. Now I can just be proud of myself. Now I don't feel so angry. Now I don't feel so powerless. Now I don't feel so lonely. Now I know I don't need help... I just want help. Now I know how to help myself. Now I know what a Time Out is supposed to be! Now the whole thing feels possible. Taking care of myself is a great idea. I feel better because now I have a plan that works. Wow! I did a really good job!

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